Learning to Communicate

Communication is a key to most things. Learning how to communicate effectively, sometimes is easier said than done. Regardless if we are talking about the lifestyle or talking about real life, it is difficult to maintain a good relationship without effective and successful good communication skills. This means being able to talk through the rough spots….not walking away and not ignoring the problem or the person. Good communication will make your relationship deeper and stronger, will help you to know what your partner wants, and it helps to build that trust and mutual respect. 

Good communication is difficult at best when you people are not willing to cooperate and communicate. Whether we are talking about a D/s relationship or something totally vanilla…if you don’t communicate then where is the trust? How can you make your partner understand if he/she/they won’t talk to you? Or even if we’re just talking about friends here – male and/or female friends. When the communication is lacking it is difficult to maintain that relationship. 

But it isn’t just you talking to this person in your relationship…you have to be willing to listen to them too. Don’t interrupt and don’t judge…just listen. Look at them when they’re talking. Give them feedback; let them know that you were paying attention to what they were saying, that you value what they were saying. Don’t let your emotions get in the way. If things start getting rough. Back off for a few minutes, get yourself under control and then get back to the conversation.

Much easier said than done, I know!